I recently did a Tarot Reading for someone who wanted to know ‘…..if he is coming back and, if so, when?’. It’s a very common question.
Well, it is very daunting answering a question like that. By taking the risk of telling her no, I was very much providing a customer with a negative experience, and that is not going to help my business at all. It was with some trepidation that I dealt the cards. Sadly there was no indication that he was coming back and I had to tell her so.
I actually didn’t hear back for a couple of weeks and I had begun to believe that she was pretty upset. That is part of the risk of reading for people, and I have had to come to terms with it….I am not going to lie to anyone, if the cards tell me what they tell me. It’s a tough call, especially for her.
The Tarot is…..truthful.
And……
If you haven’t passed your exams does anyone tell you that you have?
If you go to the doctors, and there is something wrong, do they tell you everything’s alright?
No. Or they shouldn’t!
You’ll have heard the old adage ‘Ask me no questions, and I’ll tell you no lies.’
This is one way of dealing with it. Don’t put yourself out there – if you can’t handle the answers, you shouldn’t ask the questions.
But if you do get a reading that doesn’t tell you what you want to hear, my advice is, firstly, put a mute on your ego, your ego can be your worst enemy. It is the ego that helps us to survive, but it is also the ego that won’t let us understand the reasons why we can’t have what we want when we want it. It is logic versus emotions. If you ask a question, you have to be ready to listen to the answer without getting uppity. Look carefully at what the outcome of this situation is telling you: is there something you could have done to make it right, or is it simply un-asked for and unfair? The ego will stop you from doing that, by insisting that everyone else was wrong and you are hard done by. The first step is to accept it. By accepting that these things happen, or they are not going to happen, you open yourself to becoming stronger, wiser and much more patient.
Secondly, whatever the answer, nothing is written in stone – Tarot reflects the fluidity of life and changing energies which happen constantly. If my Sitter had chased the guy she wanted, she could have got him back, possibly, in any case the cards would still have been right – he didn’t come back to her voluntarily. She will have altered the outcome herself by going to him. Tarot card readings do not have to dictate your life but they will reflect the truth of the current situation for a short period of time.
A reading does have a limited time scale, the Tarot cannot possibly answer questions in the long term, or on a ‘forever’ basis, again because of the constant shifts in energies – therefore, it might even be, in time, that he comes to his senses and realises that she was good for him, and wants her back, but it might be too late….she has moved on. The cards would still have been right – he didn’t come back in her immediate future.
It may be better, in reality, to ask a question that is much more constructive, such as ‘What do I need to do to get over this love affair?’. Tarot is a marvellous guidance tool that you can use for you. Isn’t it better to get sound advice on how to get yourself back on the road, rather than asking about someone who is not interested in you, or your life? This is the advice any decent Tarot reader would give you.
I did get feedback in the end – she said she loved the reading and she needed to hear it. It coincided with a lot of other signs and indications that it was time to make some changes, and that she was going to do exactly that. She was at peace, despite other issues she was dealing with alongside the break up.
That is how to deal with an answer you don’t want to hear. I am proud I stuck to my principles and told her the honest truth, and I am proud she listened to the answer and rose to the challenge.
Whilst the answer didn’t faze this particular client, and I am delighted she appreciated the reading, I feel there could have been so much energy put into a reading that could have helped her much more constructively. If she had only focused her question on what she needed rather than what he was going to do, she could have got so much more out of the reading.
So…………if you are thinking of having a tarot reading, it would really make sense to ask a question you are not afraid to hear the answer to, and ask about how to make the best of your life and your opportunities, this is what the Tarot really wants to talk to you about.
Patricia x
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